This morning was the second morning in a row, where I bent over to get some socks, and I started to cry. Yes, if you saw all of the unfolded socks we have in this house, you would cry too. But that is not the reason.
My father-in-law passed away about 4 weeks ago now. And my husband has a big bag of his socks in the closet. I have been wearing them. Yesterday I bent over to grab some and the tears just fell. Wondering if I properly mourned my father-in-law. I am thinking not.
Ironic, the light bulb has been out for about 6 months, the one outside by the basketball hoop. I almost said to my husband last night, I am just going to call you dad and have him change it. Thank god I didn’t say that, but it was my first thought. And my son said to me last night that when he and his dad were driving home from Freshman Baseball Try Outs and he was not cut from the team last night. my husband said, let’s call you grandpa and tell him. How sad that must of been. When you no longer have that person you are used to calling when something is going good in your life, really sucks.
My husband doesn’t talk about his dad’s death and he never has. He never talked about his mom dying 8 months earlier. He doesn’t talk about anything. At least not to me. And you know what is funny? I can talk about anything and everything, just not to him. I think we are more alike than I care to admit. Oh my god, did I just say that out loud?
Although I am having these sad thoughts of my father-in-law, and feeling bad for my husband, that does not discredit the fact that I am still super pissed over the fact that the man has made NO comment regarding my letter I enclosed in his over night bag on Friday. I know he read the damn thing. My guess is, he knows I am just blowing smoke up his ass, because I have no options at the moment. I don’t even care what he thinks about the letter. I just once want him to say, I read your letter and I hear what you are saying, I don’t have to understand, but I hear you. Seriously, is that to much for ask for? Some sort of acknowledgement would be greatly appreciated. I have a loud voice, but I don’t have a voice in this house. I was robbed of it several years ago.
I think that is why, (although I am great and loyal friend), I am also a needy one. Meaning, I need some sort of reassurance that you hear me and you are not going to leave or just you do not give two shits about what I have to say.
That is why I love Facebook. I am working on three pages. I love the reassurance and the little boost that the fans give me. What I don’t get from my spouse, I get from the feedback on the pages. Well, I get everything but sex. And if I figure out how to do that, I will let you know. The people I have met on this FB journey has been well worth the fights my husband I have over the computer and the time I spend on it.
Oh look a squirrel…..
This is day number 4 of my job, my first official week is almost done. I enjoy getting out of the house, I do. I hate leaving my dog, he sleeps all day anyway, but I like when he sleeps next to me on the couch 😉 I hate that my kids have to actually walk home from school. Yesterday was a snow day, so there is snow, but the streets are clear. We don’t live far from the school, but I feel guilty that they have to walk.
With me saying I am upset over my father-in-laws death, and even the stupidity of my husband. I am really trying to think positive and think of a few good things that I have to look forward to. That always puts me in a good mood.
I may get to go to Vegas in July and see some high school friends. Our reunions are such hits, we keep having them every couple of years, this time it will have just been a year. I have a very good friend who I have come to love and adore who is moving to OH (we met on FB!) I can NOT wait to meet her. And I have another woman whose FB page I work on now and we have come fast friends, and we hope to meet soon as well.
I have all my kids Spring sports to look forward to. Love me some baseball, softball, and soccer! And I know it is snowy outside today, but I realize that April will be here before we know it, which means May is quick to follow. Love May and what is signifies. Besides the fact that it means I am becoming a year older, it means that Mr. Sun will shortly make his appearance for a few months.
The summer makes me happy. Even in times of despair or pain, I will smile if the sun is out. So for now I will just wing it. I may have to live in a pretend world for a little while longer. I am sadly used to it, so it won’t be hard. I will have to formulate some kind of plan where I can put what little money I am making away, so I can start a nest egg (again!) This will be my third attempt. I need something to fall back on if the shit hits the fan. At this rate the chances of anything catching me are slim to none 😉
I have been told by several good friends that I need counseling. I don’t want counseling. I don’t want to admit out loud some things that are floating thru this crazy head of mine. I am scared, and lost and don’t know what to do. But I will do what I know how to do. And the Academy Award for the Best Actress in a Drama/Comedy goes to……………ME!
But I do know that I have to put on my happy face and get ready for work. I am getting used to wearing a mask. I will tell you this though, they itch and are difficult to wear when you are wearing your glasses. 🙂 🙂